Sounds like a lot like a movie title. But it’s not. Hey, you should title your next movie Advice Unsolicited! Unsolicited Advice? Too common.
There are ways to gain common ground and ways to not.
After reading When Not To Give Advice by Siddhartha Herdegen, I got to thinking I should tell you to subscribe to his way of thinking.
You shouldn’t give advice to someone:
1. Who’s driving
2. Enjoying a success
3. Who doesn’t know you as an expert
4. Who doesn’t know you care about their success
5. or anyone who hasn’t asked you for it directly
I agree. Get a lay of the land before opening your mouth. I get it. And, more specifically, here is what I learned for the next time my wife is driving: Know when it’s time for me to take on a more supportive role and let her do the driving. Even if it takes us a little longer to get there. Even if we are late.
When you read his article, you’ll realize these are his words “almost” word for word. Why did I do that? Because when something rings true with you, don’t mess with it. Go with it.
I, also, love his use of “you’d be wrong.” … It’s right on.
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Just be yourself. -#autophasia
We give advice, but we don’t inspire conduct. -Francois Duc de la Rochefoucauld
Advice is like snow – the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and te deeper it sinks into the mind. -Samuel Taylor Coleridge #simile
Nobody wants advice – only corraboration. -John Steinbeck
To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn’t know what to do or that he can’t do it on his own. -John Gray
A good scare is worth more than good advice. -Horace #repeater
Giving advice to a stupid man is like giving salt to a squirrel. -Kashmiri Proverb
If it’s free, it’s advice; if you pay for it, it’s counseling; if you can use either on, it’s a miracle. -Jack Adams #paraprosdokian #anaphora
Be yourself is about the worst advice you can give to some people. Thomas L. Masson
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The cool stuff this blog is made of::: ”like a lot like” -rhyme; “lot like” -alliteration; “But it’s not” -Switch direction; lot-not -rhyme; movie-movie – repeat; title-title -repeat; “you should” -advice; advice unsolicited-unsolicited advice -antimetabole; common-common -repeat; ways to-ways to -#anaphora, “Ways to not” sounds like “waste not.” – #homonymic pun; gain common ground -sandwiched alliteration; “after reading” -presupposition; “should tell you” -unsolicited advice; subscribe -semantic priming; ”I get it” -(lay of the land/understand); even if-even if” -#anaphora; “When you read” -presupposition; “you’ll realize” -awareness presupposition; word for word -symploce, “did I do” -sounds cool; because -Cialdini reason; true-you -rhyme; mess with it. Go with it. – #epistrophe #isocolon; “you’d be wrong.” … It’s right on. – #assonance; “right on” -(correct and/or OK with me and/or antonym of wrong)
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